Time for some educating about Prom

Have you heard of the high school student who was suspended from school for asking Miss America to prom? It sounds a little ridiculous, but the real story isn’t all that out of line. He went against a direct instruction by the school administration, who didn’t want him disrupting their event of having her speak at the school. His suspension was about defying authority – however benignly – and how the school has to handle disciplinary issues.

That being said, it didn’t take long for a feminist with a voice – Amanda Marcotte, who was previously associated with John Edwards – to declare that the student’s punishment is just, not because of authority and defiance issues, though. She declared that his actions amounted to sexual harassment.

As disgusted and flabbergasted as I am by her opinion, I can almost understand it. After all, when I was in high school it was not considered out of place for a guy to get a hotel room for the night for himself and his date on prom night. Too few people at my high school ever batted an eye at the notion that if a guy shelled out plenty of money for prom, he should receive sexual favors as a reward. I haven’t spent a lot of time studying prom culture – promology? – since my high school years, however, my general impression is that things have not really changed for the better. So if a woman feels that asking a girl to prom is tantamount to asking for sexual favors, well, maybe she isn’t too far off the mark in this day and age.

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Let’s Start With a Question…

I often start any class I’m teaching with a question. It gets us thinking and talking.  I wrestled with how to start this blog, partly because I’ve always wondered if people really ever read the first post on a blog anyway.  I have occassionally, and usually I wish I hadn’t bothered.  It’s a little like going back and watching the first episode of an old sitcom; it’s alright, but you know by that point that there are better things to come.

However, there’s the OCD part of me that simply can’t punt this first post and just <insert random greeting and explanation about what I want to do with my blog>, so instead I’m going to ask a few questions:

  • What was the best piece of advice about marriage or parenting you ever got?
  • Where or how did you get that advice?
  • How has using that advice benefited your family?

Please share some thoughts in response to these questions in the comments area below.